3 SKILLS TO ACQUIRE WHILE YOU WAIT FOR MR. RIGHT

Another blog about waiting…groan.

Waiting can be hard. I know.

But, I have to ask, does waiting for Mr. Right feels never ending?

Do you keep wondering if the wait will ever end?

Do you wish you had an end date working with?

Do you wonder if you have the practical skills that you will need when that time comes?

Today, you’re going to learn 3 important skills you need to acquire and put into action to be intentional and purposeful while you wait.

Yes, waiting can be hard.

But, If you wait with a plan and be willing to execute that plan, the wait becomes easier.

Ladies, before I share the 3 skills, let me say this

we mostly live in a culture that doesn’t prepare young women for marriage- we often don’t learn the skills in our families or if we do learn a little we don’t learn enough.

Truthfully, churches and schools don’t prepare you. Most mothers aren’t preparing their daughters for marriage (some are single mothers, working endlessly to make ends meet or some just don’t know how having never learnt themselves) and sadly neither are the older women in the churches.

The end result?

Most women go into marriage knowing very little about being:

Yes, cook.

A family shouldn’t have to run on take out and store-bought meals!

Learn to cook!

Nothing is more fulfilling than preparing a meal, no matter how simple for those you love.

I remember my first attempt at cooking- rice and fried chicken for me and my nephews and niece, I was probably about 9/10- the rice was soft and burnt and the chicken was burnt and tasteless.

But guess what? I kept practicing. I got better. I kept watching my mother and my siblings when they were in the kitchen-the end result? We all can cook and keep house.

Maybe your experience is different-maybe you had no one to learn from or to be instructed by

BUT it isn’t too late to learn

Nothing will come close to the joy you will feel in having your husband and or your children in the kitchen with you cutting veggies, and preparing a meal.

Ladies, I believe this is 1 skill you need today-note this isn’t about the man.

This is about you

And you having the power to feed your family and yourself in a wholesome and healthy way

A homecooked meal is gold- no matter what it is

My husband, tells me that every day

And it feels good to hear it

It gives me a lot of pleasure to prepare a meal that we both enjoy-it builds intimacy, and communication and

the simple act of cooking creates a space to bond.

Don’t turn your nose up at this skill

The sustenance of your family is in your HANDS. You have the power.

I’m not telling you to create 5 course meals every day of the week-you’re busy, I know

But Simple, healthy and nutritious meals- 2 ingredients, 3 ingredients

Learning to cook, doesn’t make you the servant at home it REALLY makes you the MASTER.

I know this may not be something you:

If you live alone, it is necessary

If you live with others, it is necessary

When I was growing up my mother gave me chores to do-all of us had chores that helped with running the house more efficiently; helped with keeping the house in order and helped to create the place where we were together that was clean and organised.

There was a place for everything- shoes, school bags, clothes

Dishes don’t grow legs and go to the sink they must be taken

They don’t get washed magically either somebody has to wash them

Ladies,

Be intentional about keeping your surroundings clean and in order

Hear what Proverbs 14:1 says,

The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.

Again

Hear Proverbs 31: 27 She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

OK, so I know there are those of you here who may be saying-

I work hard, I work long hours,

I don’t need to learn that I can hire HELP-that’s fine

But don’t you know that keeping house is one of the things a man may be looking for in his wife?

Keeping your house clean and in order may not be

A desirable skill

Be easy to do

but it can be done, and it is a skill to learn even if you don’t see the need for it now but you may need it in the long run

No one wants to visit your house and it is a mess or it smells

Keeping your house clean and in order- creates the kind of atmosphere I believe God can delight in

Afterall He is a God of order- He isn’t chaotic and haphazard

When you know how to clean and keep house- you can teach your children and if your Mr. Right never learnt that skill you can teach him too

Everybody has a schedule these days. See if that works for you- e.g. Saturdays can be Laundry days

Budgeting means creating a spending plan for your money

Single girls need to learn how to budget too- start tracking every dollar if you are not already doing so.

Money is a tool to get you what you need-services, material possession etc.

There are Biblical principles that, if followed, will keep you out of debt and give you the freedom you desire when it comes to your finances.

Money problems have long been cited as one of the problems why couples have trouble in their marriage. You don’t want to be a statistic.

Take charge of your money mindset-put $ in its rightful place, a tool to get you what you need not a tool used to punish or manipulate or coerce in your relationships.

Scripture teaches about budgeting

Create a plan for your money, set goals, be wise:

Ladies, learn to budget. Make a plan for your money. Be intentional.

Plan

Save

Be prepared for life’s uncertainties.

Budgeting is a skill you need now and will need in the future as you steward what God has provided for you and your family.

What’s more It is a skill you can share with your husband and your children as together you work together to steward what God has given you and your family.

Here is 1 bonus skill to learn-

So here we go again

If you want to feel more purposeful and intentional while you wait for Mr. Right acquire these 3 skills: